His Timetable, Not Mine

I must admit it to myself, that sometimes I get to compare my son’s development with my friends’ kids. I tend to get upset and worried if Akyn couldn’t deliver the skills that other kids can.

I reviewed my lessons in Pediatric Nursing about a child’s milestones and development, that was when I came back to my senses. My son is perfectly normal. He has his own  learning pace designed uniquely different from others. I don’t need to compare him with the other kids. My role as his mother is to support his learning process.

I have learned to embrace Akyn’s learning pace and enjoyed every bit of his progress. I can still recall when Akyn learned to pull himself into a standing position, I was so excited for him to take his first step. I didn’t rush him to walk though. I want him to walk based on his timetable, not mine. I loved seeing him progress day by day. He helped himself move towards the opposite side by holding on to pieces of furniture. I gave him a positive reinforcement by showing him I was happy every time he would let go and would try to stand alone. His first step was a challenge. He tumbled several times. While I watched him fall, at the back of my mind I was saying,”I know eventually you will learn how to walk.”

Today (February 11, 2017), Akyn surprised us when he started walking alone without anyone holding him. I was able to capture his victorious smile that shines the brightest in this picture.


I am looking forward for many more surprises from my only son. I love you baby.


  1. I have 4 and this is definitely a lesson to learn. For example, right now, I really wish my baby’s last tooth would pop through. It’s literally the last one he’ll get until he’s 2 and it’s been coming in for like a month ? Haha but in other news- each and every kid has been completely different developmentally. Right now we’re struggling with our worst potty trainer yet. My mom always says- “he won’t go to college in diapers” or “she’ll read when she wants to”…sometimes it’s hard to wait!

    1. Thank you for your comment Jamie. This statement of your Mom(he won’t go to college in diapers) made me smile today.

  2. We always need to keep in mind that our baby is a person by himself. needs, likes, dislikes, patterns, habits, milestones. They have their own timelines!
    I know it is easier said than done though. to not compare!
    Akyn is a great name and he s a cutie!

    1. Thank for sharing your thoughts Dilraz. Have a nice day ahead.

  3. I know exactly what you mean. We have a number of friends who all had babies around the same time we did (4 to be exact – and one is even 10 days apart from ours) Sometimes it is hard to not try and compare, especially if all the other parents are gushing about the newest milestone their child hit. Our little one started walking MONTHS after the other babies, but he also has more teeth and says more words. Everyone has their own schedule and will reach their milestones when they are ready to!

    1. Thank you Kassi for sharing your experience with your little one.

  4. For sure! My oldest bio son didn’t speak until after 2, and everybody was worried… I worked really hard not to worry! And he turned out just fine. Those babies are all different, just like they will all grow into vastly different adults with different skills. Too much emphasis put on them to all hit the same goals at the same age, I think.

    1. I agree with you Juli. Thanks for sharing your ideas. ❤

  5. Such an adorable baby…. I agree, even i tend to get into comparing my bub with others her age and its very natural as a human being. This post is so nostalgic for me… it took me back to my bub’s early years.
    Lots of love…

    1. Thanks Kaushal for sharing your personal experience with your baby.♥

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