Marrying an Ex-Seminarian

When our priest who interviewed us before getting married knew that Mon was an ex-seminarian, I couldn’t forget his question asking me,”So you were the reason why Mon left the seminary huh?” I answered, “NO, he already left the seminary when I met him. I do often get this remark from my friends when they knew Mon is an Ex-seminarian. Just to give you a brief background, Mon left the seminary after finishing his Philosophy degree and opted to pursue a degree for Computer Engineering. He had his own reasons for leaving.

Our priest then said to me, I was lucky enough to marry an ex-seminarian because most of them are better than those who didn’t leave. I definitely agree with him. I am not saying ex-seminarians are better than those who continued their vocation as a priest or vice versa. My points is, I do consider myself lucky for marrying a guy who has a great faith in God.

Mon helped me and strengthened my connections with the Catholic faith. When I feel lazy and have formulated 100 reasons not to attend the mass every Sunday, he’ll  give me 1 million reasons for me to go and would encouraged me to hear the Gospel of Christ. We made it a habit during our free time to read a passage in the bible and share our point of view about the Holy Reading. When I listened to him speak, I  was like listening to a priest preaching the word of the Lord. I still rate myself as a novice when it comes to the familiarity of the Book of Life. When it’s my turn to explain the passage, Mon never did judge and lambaste me about my interpretation. He rather provided his additional inputs to let me understand it better. These are just few of the practices we do to draw closer to HIM.

Neither my husband nor I, is near to perfection as a follower of Christ but we do support each other to nourish our spiritual life. We are in a continuous  process in making the foundation of our marriage sturdy.


Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)



  1. Wonderful Story. Proud Bro. here of Andamon Abilar. ??

    1. Thank you for reading brother Richard.

  2. I am an ex seminarian myself. It was 5 yrs after I left that I meet my wife.

    1. Thank you for reading brother Michael.

  3. Congratulations! Nice story about a brother…

    1. Thanks for reading Brother Arnel.

  4. Congratulations! Nice story about a brother.
    I am also an ex-seminarian. Although I met my future wife during my regency, she, like you, was not the reason why I left the seminary.

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  6. thank you for sharing us your story…nice and good.. my husband is also an ex-seminarian…and I’m so lucky to have him….

  7. It’s a pleasure to read an extra ordinary message you created for you husband, even myself I am thankful that he never didn’t go through become a priest, I myself was born and raised catholic- I even studied in a exclusive Catholic Church when I was in secondary, but when I came to UK I learned the true doctrines of the bible just for allowing myself to open my mind and my heart to the truth teachings of God written in the bible… I am now a proud member of the Church of Christ. Whatever the reasons why you didn’t pursue in the seminary, have you ever ask yourself already??? For sure there’s a main reason why because when you decided to join seminary you have reason right? So now that ex seminarian- for sure you also have reason behind it. Please don’t think I am challenging you, I just thought I can share my experience when I decided not to pursue with my faith being catholic- coz I found the true biblical teachings of God, when I joined bible studies in the Iglesia Ni Christo. Thank you all for reading, hope this message will catch your thoughts to give yourself a chance too… Believe me you will find out lots of things why lots of religious belief and the most important is.. you will find out which one is the true Church/ Religion purchased by the blood of Christ. Once again many thanks for your time.

  8. A very nice and touching story. I’d known Andamon (Mon) in our philosophy. He is a very friendly and helpful person. Am also an ex-seminarian but I went out late already, during my theology years.

    1. Thank you for reading@Angelito. ☺

  9. Nice story… I’m in a confused state right now cos I have a seminarian boyfriend and we’ve been dating for over a year now… he hasn’t made it clear to me if he wants to marry me or just date me… he said he’s still discerning and he’s not sure of what the future will bring. I love and care about him a lot, but I still feel like an option to him… what do I do please? should I wait for him to decide or just move on?

    1. Hi Mary,

      Thanks for visiting my blog. Glad you liked the story. If I were in your position, I would feel just as you do.” It’s difficult to be in a relationship where you’re not certain if your loved one is really decided to marry you or he got another priority other than you. I would suggest you to have an Honest discussion with him. As he said “he is not yet certain of what’s going to happen in the future” then please try to let him know on how long you are willing to wait.. I hope this could help. God Bless you♥

      1. Thank you very much?… I discussed with him recently and he said after his philosophy next year, he would like to continue with theology if nothing happens to him… I guess I’m just an option then?

        1. Hi Mary, I’m an ex-seminarian also, i would suggest that it is better to leave him continuing his road to priesthood if he doesn’t have the guts to leave the seminary. I know it really hurts but it is the right way.

    2. Awwww,

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