Being Wise When It Comes To Friendship

With the dramatic rise of social media nowadays, making friends and mingling with others is made much more easier. Like Facebook, for example, it allows you to add more people all across the globe with just one click of your mouse or one tap of your fingers on your mobile screen. Once a friend request is confirmed, Facebook will automatically label you as FRIENDS.

But my question is, how deep is that so called friendship you have online?

I am quite astonished as some of my friends can reach up to how many thousands of friends online. I have nothing against them but I am just curious if they really know all of them personally? I, myself has an estimated 300+ numbers of Facebook friends ( which I consider too many), and I admit I haven’t shared any special bond with all of them. A few are my classmates, old workmates, family and relatives, with only a small number of people who will count as my friends.

I want to be very transparent with this post to confess I only have a little circle of people to whom I call as my true friends. I choose my friends wisely now that I am not getting any younger. I suppose my friends will have an impact with the way I view things in life.

“Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.”

This is a popular saying which holds true to me. The people who surround you affect your line of thinking as well as your action. The more you spend time with your chosen friends, the more chances you will unconsciously mimic their behaviors. In my adulthood stage, I have learned who to keep and who to let go. I keep those whom I think values me as someone dear to them and can provide a positive influence to me especially to my spiritual life.

Corinthians 15:33

Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.

I maintain my connection with….

People with great faith in God

I make friends to those whose faith in Him is unbreakable. They teach me on how I can become more Christ-like. I am not a hypocrite. I do not preach goodness and act in the opposite way. I know and I am certainly aware I have several flaws when it comes to upholding the teachings of God. I am thankful for having the chance to meet my Godly friends who constantly inspire me to see the goodness in everything.

People who radiates positivity

I’ve tried spending time with people who always complain and see life in a negative perspective no matter what you say to them. It is very emotionally and physically draining, I tell you. I have so many things in my plate to attend to as a working wife and a mom. Listening to all the dramatic whining and feeble complain about the world is just too much for me to handle. Choosing to be positive and deciding to be with friends who positively influence me is the best decision I can do for myself.

People who listen

I do love to console friends and listen to them when they needed an ear who cares for them. I also would like my friends to the same thing to me when I am in sorrow. Friendship is a give and take relationship. It’s not always about you, you and you alone. We may need to reciprocate to the needs of others. I feel valued if I can see someone who is genuinely interested to the things I share with them.

People who are true

It’s very difficult to say right away if a person is true to his intention to you as a friend or simply faking your relationship for other intentions he may have. But as time flies, his true motives will surely get revealed when a difficult situation will arise. Fake people will leave you when you needed them the most. They will only show themselves when they can see they can benefit from you again. Harsh, isn’t it? But this type of Fake friends really do exist.

If you can find people who are among the list of your friends criteria, keep them for they are so rare to find. Friends may come and go, but the option on who to consider as our true friends depends on us. No matter how many years shall pass, how dormant our friends will become because of lesser opportunities to communicate and how far the distance we are apart from them, the bond will remain  if it’s TRUE.



  1. So well written! & relatable

    1. Thank you for dropping your comment.

  2. You couldn’t have said this better. I have a very small circle of friends that I connect with and that inspire me. I don’t need a lot of friends, just the right ones.

    1. Thank you Marissa for sharing your thoughts about friendship.

  3. You MUST read “Befriend” by Scott Sauls. We have enjoyed it in my homegroup, and it goes with this post very well. He is an incredible writer, and it comes from a Christian perspective, so he hits the nail on the head every time.

    1. Oh! I would love to read that book soon. Thank you for your suggestion.

  4. People definitely underestimate the influence that the people around them have. I talk about this a lot with my kids especially since they’re still young. Be wise in who you keep company with! Great post!

    1. Thanks Brittany.. I agree with you. We should teach our kids to choose their company well.

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